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What Are Repressed Feelings?

Repressed emotions are these which might be unconscious. They differ from suppressed feelings, that are emotions you deliberately keep away from since you’re not sure of cope with them. If you suppress issues, you realize that you just’re pushing them down.  

As an example, say you’ve got a nasty argument along with your important different tonight. You might have an particularly necessary enterprise assembly to attend within the morning. So, you would possibly select to suppress the way you’re feeling in regards to the argument till you make it by that assembly when you’ve got the time and vitality to focus in your emotions extra. That is an instance of suppressing feelings.

Emotional suppression may be useful as a short-term resolution, so long as you realize it’s necessary to return and deal with what you’re avoiding as quickly as potential.

Alternatively, repressed feelings are by no means processed. The issue with that is they don’t simply go away. As an alternative, they’ll seemingly present up sooner or later — typically within the type of potential psychological or bodily signs.

Why will we repress our feelings?

Repressed emotion typically stems from a distressed childhood. Maybe as a toddler, you discovered it was safer to keep away from constructive or unfavorable feelings as a result of that’s what your major caregivers taught you to do. You might have discovered to bury highly effective and tough feelings deep inside since you weren’t allowed to specific them overtly. As this habits turns into a behavior, you’ll be able to turn into an knowledgeable at repressing your feelings, typically with out even figuring out what you’re doing.

In case your dad and mom or caregivers judged or criticized your emotional expressions, by no means talked about any constructive or unfavorable emotion they skilled, or did not encourage you to specific your self, as an grownup, you would possibly really feel out of contact along with your feelings and not sure of categorical them in a wholesome, productive manner.

Mostly repressed feelings

Most individuals are inclined to repress highly effective and tough feelings, particularly these which might be related to disagreeable previous experiences. We generally repress what we worry others would possibly contemplate as unfavorable emotions like frustration, worry, unhappiness, disappointment, and anger. Individuals don’t usually repress constructive feelings like pleasure, love, and happiness.

Once more, this might return to childhood, particularly if you happen to had been advised issues like:

  • You need to be grateful for what you’ve got
  • Cease being ungrateful
  • There’s no motive to be sad
  • Cease appearing unhappy
  • It’s essential settle down

It’s necessary to level out that there’s a distinction when statements like this are used often to redirect or calm a toddler down. They typically solely turn into detrimental once they’re used to stifle kids’s pure emotional expression. When emotions aren’t honored or validated, it may well educate kids that their trustworthy feelings aren’t of worth. 

Even when your dad and mom didn’t deliberately low cost your feelings, it’s potential they could have inadvertently discouraged you from expressing your self freely. In consequence, you may need begun to think about disappointment, anger, unhappiness, and different sturdy feelings as being inappropriate methods so that you can categorical your self.

Moreover, if you happen to repeatedly bought reinforcement that it’s extra acceptable to specific constructive feelings like happiness and pleasure, you may need discovered it’s solely OK to share the great (not unfavorable) feelings. This discovered habits can simply carry over to maturity.

“Generally we expertise conditions which might be so troubling that our thoughts’s preliminary response is to guard us by repressing our emotional response. If you end up appearing out of character, or saying or doing issues that appear like stunning reactions, even for you, it might be time to speak to a licensed therapist or psychiatrist about what’s occurring so you’ll be able to work to get to the foundation of what’s inflicting this.”

Talkspace therapist Ashley Ertel, LCSW, BCD, C-DBT

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