You’re at risk of residing a life so snug and comfortable, that you’ll die with out ever realizing your true potential.
David Goggins, Can’t Harm Me
Are you at a spot in your life the place the above quote rings a bell? Is there a nagging thought in your head that goes like this?
“My life is supposed to be extra…”
Do you’re feeling a bit overwhelmed although since you’re not fairly positive what to do?
I perceive fully what that’s like. I’ve been there. I understand how inconceivable it will possibly all really feel. I perceive how weak it will possibly make you appear to your self.
You aren’t weak, although, and alter is attainable. Will you retain studying to know extra? I hope so.
The issue with development, therapeutic, and, in the end, turning into who we are supposed to be is…
It’s one hell of a roadblock.
Worry of not understanding the place or find out how to begin. Worry of what may change due to the change required. Worry of getting to take care of issues being run away from. Worry of dropping issues or somebody you’ve been holding on to for too lengthy.
It’s exhausting and scary, however because the quote above on the prime of this put up insinuates…
…do you wish to stay your total life lacking out in your true potential?
I drank for a extremely very long time to keep away from all of this. Alcohol was enjoyable at first in school, however at twenty-four I began self-medicating once I suffered a tragically emotional occasion.
There was a lot grief, guilt, and disgrace wrapped up in it, and with nobody to speak to, I turned to alcohol. It turned my greatest pal and numbing agent for 13 years.
After which 2014 got here alongside the place I misplaced my mother to pancreatic most cancers in lower than six months and have become a father a bit over three months after she died.
I turned a father or mother whereas dropping a father or mother.
The reality is that this duality broke me. Even within the face of being a brand new father, I used to be drowning in grief. Not solely that, however my unnamed alcoholism was nearly fairly actually drowning me as nicely.
Grief and alcohol.
There is just one approach that that harmful combo can go which is down.
I hit all-time low in June of 2015 and that’s once I realized that life was forcing me to alter.
I’ll spare you in depth particulars about my journey between then and now. You may be taught extra about how my self-growth and therapeutic journey started, however in essence…
- I befriended my grief
- Handled chapter
- Battled alcoholism
- Obtained sober
- Obtained and stayed sober for good
- Obtained divorced whereas studying to be sober
- Began life throughout with no cash
- 2020 COVID pandemic and now…
…right here we’re.
What do I’ve to indicate for it?
I’ve my sobriety, my thoughts, my physique, my spirit, and, most significantly, my son.
The place did all of it start?
When my mother died.
I do know which may appear morbid, but it surely’s actually simply the reality. My mom’s dying was the catalyst that pressured me to alter all the pieces in my life with the intention to begin turning into who I used to be meant to be for myself and my son.
That is my story of change. Would I choose that my mother was right here and I acquired to observe her and my son enjoying collectively?
Hell sure, however that’s not a part of my story. I railed towards that reality for a really very long time, however as soon as I launched a maintain on a future that I believed was supposed for me that’s when life began to really change for the higher.
Be taught from my story.
Don’t wait for all times to power you to alter, however change nonetheless. Even if you happen to suppose you will have all of it found out, do not forget that life is a marathon and never a dash.
Changing into who you are supposed to be takes a lifetime. It has to begin someplace, one way or the other and someday.
Do you will have the braveness to look inside you and discover what must shift with the intention to grow to be who you are supposed to be?
In that case, what’s one factor you may change beginning at present that may transfer you in that route?